3 Awful Lies Anxiety Whispers To You
Three sneaky lies that race through your brain until they feel true. Plus, how to fight back and stop them from controlling you.
Anxious thoughts are like a Komodo Dragon.
These massive lizards can grow up to 10 feet long and weigh more than 150 pounds. They hide in tall grass or bushes until a deer, wild boar, or water buffalo approaches. Then it jumps onto its prey, sinking its claws and razor-sharp teeth into it.
Sometimes the dragon overpowers the animal.
Sometimes it escapes.
But even if the animal escapes, the clock is ticking. The lizard has infected it with lethal amounts of bacteria. So the Dragon will slowly stalk it for miles. And usually within 24 hours, the animal collapses.
Anxious thoughts work the same way. They wait until you’re tired… or when you’re down. Then they get you.
When you’re at full strength it’s easier to ward off anxious thoughts. But when you’ve had a hectic day. Or when you’re battling other things, it’s not so easy.
Then those anxious thoughts begin to catch up, and whisper certain lies to you.
Here are three such lies:
1)“You’re not good enough”
It fixates on your flaws.
Replaying everything you did wrong. Or things you could improve on. You may have done a ton of things well that day, but that’s not the focus. It hammers you on everything you slipped up on. And it criticizes you FAR worse than anyone else ever could. It is the farthest thing from compassionate.
It takes many forms such as:
“I’m not beautiful enough”
“I’m not smart enough”
“I’m not successful enough”
2) “It’s hopeless”
You might be working towards something.
You’ve probably encountered hurdles while pursuing it. Probably multiple hurdles. And that’s the nature of goals. It’s the nature of any journey. But that’s when anxiety’s voice may try to convince you that you’re not going anywhere.
Then it may evolve into…
It’s not going to work.
It’s never going to work.
Even if you’ve already made progress. Even if you’ve only tried one way to reach your goal. Or two ways. Or 10 ways. That voice can trick us into believing we’ve tried everything. Even if we’ve probably only scratched the surface of possibilities.
3)“No one struggles like you do”
It may seem like others have it easier.
It may seem like they don’t have the struggles that you do. Or that they aren’t as affected by things as you are. On top of that, it’s easy to believe that other people have “everything together”
The truth is everyone has their struggles. They may be different types of struggles, but chances are, they are dealing with something. They may be good at holding it together and making it seem like all is well.
In many cases, we are often blind to other people’s struggles. Stephen Covey, author of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, once said, “The private victory precedes the public victory.”
Typically private failures precede public victories as well.
Rarely, do we see all the struggles, the setbacks, and problems that someone went through.
We just see the finished product.
We see the successes.
Because most people don’t share their failures.
Those are just three lies that anxiety whispers. The next time these lies creep up - know that that’s all they are: Lies. And that you don’t have to be seduced into believing them.
More importantly, remember that those “lies” are NOT you. They are simply thoughts. Thoughts that you can reign in and regain control from.
The more you recognize them as such.
The more they start losing power over you.
The Renegade Life Coach
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