How to Manage The Anxiety of Divorce and Bankruptcy!

We’ve all had bad days.

Or at least we think they’re bad until… we hear about REAL BAD DAYS.

Dan Sullivan is the founder of Strategic Coach. He’s in charge of one of the most elite programs for entrepreneurs. Early in his career he faced what he describes as the worst day of his life.

On this fateful day, his business went bankrupt.

AND his wife divorced him!

Think about that. One of these would be enough to immobilize someone.

Let alone both!

How does someone bounce back from that?

At first, he did the natural thing and began blaming people and circumstances for why it all happened. But then something interesting happened…

He snapped himself out of it.

He stopped and made two life-changing decisions:

1. He relieved everyone of responsibility for what happened. He stated “I had to get my power back”
2. He expected he would eventually get what he wanted.

Can you imagine that?

​Being able to relieve everyone of responsibility in a situation like that?

He did it all so he could get his power back.

Someone else who has taken this lesson is Gerry Spence. He is a lawyer who has NEVER lost a single criminal case. He describes a common situation that we’ve all encountered.

Have you ever faced some situation or some person and it just seemed so daunting? It’s like our imagination made this thing so much larger or so much more intimidating than it really was.

Spence had this happen as he was up all night preparing for a case. He was up against a defense attorney for an insurance company who he made out to be the perfect person.
He imagined him as having a perfect life, perfect house, perfect family, and having perfect communication.

The truth was he was disempowering himself.

He was using his power against himself.

He was making this person so big that he wasn’t able to perform at his best. This was massive lesson Spence learned. He states,

“If I have endowed the other person with power that the other person does not possess, then I face my own power. My own power has become my opponent, my enemy. I have long since refused to relinquish any of my power to my opponent. I keep my power. I use it to prepare my case, to care about my case, to care for my client”- Gerry Spence

This is something I remind myself of and my clients of. It’s about taking charge and using the power that we all have inside and not to give it up.

If you have temporarily lost your power, it’s time to get it back.

The strength you need – is the strength within.